The most important thing I learned is that "I love you" can look and sound different ways. Once I learned that, I believe my personal relationships began to improve. For example, Tom's love language is service; he's always doing things for me. The language he responds to is (sincere) praise. So it's good for both of us when I remember to thank/praise him (a lot) when he does kind things for me.
My sister, Nancy, and I differ in many ways. One way is that I'm extremely sentimental; Nancy, not so much. Nancy is blessed with our grandmother's gift of sewing, me, not so much. We share family, memories and most values, but our tastes in books, music, food, almost everything else differs.
It took me a long time to realize that Nancy's love language is giving. Pretty much every time I see her, Nancy gives me a carefully chosen or created treasure. Frequently, it's something she has machine- embroidered, always in my favorite color, or a treasure like the lovely bracelet.
One of the most important lessons I've learned from Nancy's love language is that it's not dependent on me. It's unconditional and springs from her tender and generous heart.
Isn't that how it is with the Lord? There's absolutely nothing we could ever do to earn or deserve His blessings, or grace, or salvation. What's Jesus' love language? I think it's all five, at least in my life: words, service, gifts, time, touch. What about you?
How do you express your love? What kind of love language do you respond to?
17 Show respect for all people. Love your brothers and sisters in God’s family. Respect God, and honor the king.